Let’s chat about social media…shall we?
In today’s world, social media plays a huge role in our daily lives. From scrolling through endless feeds to comparing ourselves to others, it can be easy to forget the true importance of loving ourselves. We often forget that our worth is not defined by how many likes we receive on a post or how many followers we have. Our worth is immeasurable, and it’s crucial that we remember this.
For some, social media lets you “BE” someone that you’re not able to “BE” every day in person. For others, its to simply show people that you ARE somebody. People appear more beautiful online, their lives seem busier and they are living their best life. Right. The internet really sells us on this dream of being who we want to be, but at the end of the day, who are we really? You may love your selfie, but do you love your self?
Ladies, we are especially guilty of embellishing ourselves – filters have created more relationships than e-harmony. Guilty as charged. I’ve posed myself into a whole new person in selfies…until somebody tags me off-guard…and I look…crazy.
Technology is great! Don’t get me wrong. The bottom line is we want to feel connected, loved and appreciated. Just look at the way Facebook is setup, the “language” of the interactions. “Love”, “like”, “sad”, “haha” — do you remember when Facebook was just “pokes” and comments? You could post that your grandma got hit by a runaway train and the most your friends could do was like it or poke you.
Websites and App execs realized people are looking for love, encouragement, approval, attention, and recognition. And like you, sometimes I want people to know I’m good. The people that thought you couldn’t make it without them – some posts are for them – I feel you (they need to know you’re fine, especially without them lol). However, we can’t find our self-worth based on the reaction of other people to us. We can’t base our self-worth on what people think of us (that includes getting 1000 of likes vs. four likes). Our self-worth is based on Christ and our relationship with him.
Make as much time for God as you make for other things. Listen, He is the most honest, most loving, most sincere thing in your life – why not pour your time into the person who has a plan for you? Read your bible, look up scriptures (know it for yourself), and listen to teachings (faith comes by hearing). Trust your dopeness! God made only one you; don’t conform and try to be like anyone else. T.D. Jakes once said, “Sow your seed beyond your garden,” – meaning you will be more than what you are now with the Lord on your side.
Too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. All these social medias can be a distraction from other, far MORE important things. I’ll be the first to admit, I can never seem to find time for the gym, but can accidentally surf Instagram for two hours. Be mindful of your media and also, use it to bring you joy, not comparison.
Self-love is a vital aspect of our lives, and it’s crucial that we take the time to nurture and care for ourselves. We must remember that our worth is not defined by the opinions of others or by social media, but by the love and grace of God. So next time you’re scrolling through your feed, take a moment to appreciate yourself and your unique qualities, and remember that you are loved, valued, and worthy.